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Some Things I Learned In 2 Weeks

Let me start off by stating, I am 45 years old. At this age, I tend to learn things at a slower rate. (insert joke about slowing with age here)

Not because I can’t learn things quickly, but rather, there are fewer things I encounter that I do not already have at least a cursory knowledge of, or aware of its existence. No, I’m not a know it all by any means. And yes, there are millions upon millions of things I know nothing about, but I don’t have the opportunity to run into them in my everyday routine.

So, with that in mind, what is the best way to learn new things? Why, try something new of course, break the routine.

I did just that a few weeks ago when I published my debut novel. (Which is available NOW at most online retailers. Links at the bottom.) And let me tell you, I probably learned more in the last two weeks than in the last decade. Here’s a short list, just so I don’t forget before my aged mind slows to turtle crossing a country road through the kudzu speed. LOL

  • Writing a book is hard work, but it turns out, it’s one of the easier parts of this whole process.
  • No matter how thick I believed my skin to be, it’s not impenetrable.
  • Giving my first phone interview turned me into a putz with a temporary speech impediment and sudden onset Tourette symptoms.
  • Selling myself, not in a Pretty Woman kind of way, is difficult. I mean, catching feathers in a tornado kind of difficult.
  • No matter how ‘small potatoes’ me or my book may be, pirates are pirates are pirates. 3 days before it was pirated. 3 fucking days.
  • In those 3 days, on just 1 pirate ship (site) at least 10 people a day sucked at being decent humans.
  • I say fuck – A LOT!
  • The people I have at my side are as important as the words I put on the pages.
  • I have some pretty amazing friends and family. Because some lie to protect my feelings and some don’t. It’s balance.
  • Just as there are some shitty people out there, there are some fanfuckingtastic ones too.
  • Not all bad reviews are bad. Some are good because I have already learned from them and it is reflected in my next book.
  • Some bad reviews are just that, bad. They offer nothing that is helpful to either writer or potential readers. Those suck.
  • Did I mention my skin?
  • Stars (1 or 5) without words are like shows that get cancelled mid-season. I’ll never fucking know and that kills me. (Note to self, go to Goodreads account and add comments to the many stars only reviews I have left for others, because now I know how it feels.)
  • ┬áReaders and followers are worth their weight in gold.
  • I now know what a strawberry cheesecake is, but really wish I didn’t.
  • The good outweighs the bad as long as I take my thumb off the scale. It really is a conscious choice.
  • There are people in the indie writer community (including bloggers, readers, photographers, designers, etc) that genuinely want to help others succeed. (But, there are also the opposites.)
  • Just because I can do things myself, doesn’t always mean I should.
  • And, just because I can’t do some things myself, doesn’t mean I can’t learn to.
  • Some investments are mandatory. (editor, design, pr, etc.)
  • It felt good to be in the paper for something I accomplished.
  • Being a self-published author is beyond a full time job. Even my sleep is occupied with books and characters. I am always “on”.
  • I’ll do it all over again & again & again, because I fucking love it.



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Red Pen, Ripcord & Rusty Halo

Super excited to say…

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Erika & Walker are heading back to the editor for their final meeting with a professional red pen later today.

It won’t be long now before I can introduce them. I’ve ordered some gifts for their debut, and hope you will love them as much as I do. (Erika & Walker that is…but the gifts too.)


On the writer front in general, I have kickass web graphics (as seen at and my header/profile on most social media) and a logo (above) that rocks. (Designed by Blue Sky if you’re interested.) Time to learn to self promote. It’s not my thing, but if I want to be a published author and continue to write and release books, I need to learn, and fast.


The song I can’t get out of my head this week.

Ripcord by Tangier

Have a great day/week/month/year/decade/life.

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So, yeah, I’ve been MIA…

I’ve said before that blogging is not my forte, but I am trying. I have been MIA for a while, but admittedly not due to my major suckage at blogging, but because I was finishing up some re-writes. I am thrilled to say…….

Indelible You (Imagine Ink 1) is going off to people better than me for some input (beta readers), then rewrites (me), then editing (not me), then repeat. I know that’s still a far cry from publishing, but it’s further (farther?) than I’ve been before. I want to write books and share the characters and their stories with people, but, I’m also a big fat chicken. League of Eternals, which is my (first for publishing) baby, is still just for me because I don’t have the guts to take it further.

BUT, I am getting better, so betas will see Indelible You this week. I’ll take their input in the spirit it was intended, to improve for future readers, and make my book better. Then I will give it to my editor and remind myself, her goal is to help, and I will NOT take it personal. Then, I will implement her changes and make my book EVEN better.

Then we will polish and publish.

I am so excited, but scared witless at the same time. I know what betas and editors tell you is to help and not hurt or insult, but it’s still scarey. I keep telling myself, “If she tells me something sucks, it’s because it sucks not because she hates me. And, if it sucks, it needs to come out.” To be honest, it still stings, but I am finally to a place as a writer aspiring to be published, that I know this sting will be less painful than the sting of readers when they feel gypped.

Not everyone will like what I write, and some of them will be very vocal about it. I have accepted that truth, but accepting it doesn’t mean I’m not going to flinch in anticipation.

Here is a draft of the cover though. (I think I shared it before, but once is never enough.)

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